So often we interpret triggers in our life as negative and bad, as something to be avoided at all costs. What are triggers? Psych Central defines triggers as “something that sets off a memory tape or flashback transporting the person back to the event of their original trauma. Triggers are very personal; different things trigger different people.” people “will react to this flashback, trigger with an emotional intensity similar to that at the time of the trauma.” It sounds ghastly and it is horrible when you relive something that had such a huge effect on you in the past. This of course is keying into the big triggers. Those are the ones that require supportive therapy to navigate through.
What about the small triggers that are a momentary rush of emotions but don’t necessarily affect our regular flow of life? Those nagging things that you wish would just stop emerging. Those are the small triggers that we will focus on here. They do provide a gift to us as they show us where we are in our healing journey. They are there for a reason and avoiding them will just cause them to linger longer. So, what is the positive intention behind these? They act as a barometer and a security alarm to keep us safe.
I will give you an example. During my marriage my husband went to a Live concert to meet up with another woman. When he came back, he played one of their hit songs Lightning Crashes, more times than I could count. I later heard what had transpired during this concert and from then on, that song triggered instant tears, feelings of anger, abandonment, betrayal, unworthiness and pain. This lingered for almost 10 years after.
Today I play the song and enjoy the album it is on. What shifted? I did. The trigger is telling us that there is something within that needs to be addressed. For me it was the feeling of worthiness. That I am worthy of love, I am worthy of respect, I am worthy of truth. Finding the that core piece and cultivating what I needed for myself shifted the song from a trigger to just a beautiful and creative song. It converted the pain to inner peace. It sounds so simple and it can be, although it is not easy. There was hard work and I sought out support to help me work through this and get to the core of what this trigger was trying to communicate to me.
These small triggers are an indication of when one of our core values have been violated in the moment or when a situation has triggered a memory of when a core value had been dishonoured. When we find ourselves triggered take a moment to step back and ask yourself, what does this situation and my reaction to it trying to tell me? What is it that I need to focus on within myself that needs attention?
Knowing what our core values are can help us narrow down an answer to these questions and give us the focus we need for our own healing and self development.
What triggers would you like to dissipate? What could you enjoy after they are gone?
If you want support in finding your core values or fining Inner Peace from your triggers, please contact Libby for a private chat to find out how.