We all have them. The rough days or weeks where you wonder why you bothered getting out of bed. It is so easy to lash out in frustration to those who cross your path. Might as well share the misery, right?! This has a negative ripple effect.
Anger is a reaction to someone knowingly or unknowingly violating your values. When I say values, I mean something deeper than family or community values. Trust, connection and so many more are the values I am talking about. * When our core values are trodden on then we can go from calm to livid in 2.8 seconds.
So how to we fortify or heal ourselves enough to be able to manage this?
Although these suggestions look simple, they are not always easy. It means really getting to know ourselves and taking personal responsibility. This can be a huge challenge when we are used to putting the responsibility for our anger in the hands of other people. It means taking our power back and mindfully taking the stand to no longer passively give power to others. We may not be able to decide or change the situation we are in, but we can change how we react and interact in it.
What are your thoughts? What has helped you move past the anger?
*Here is a list of values compiled by James Clear that is quite good.