In the November Change of Path Group one of the members had been inspired by the experience a youth in the UK was going through.  To provide the background on this post here is the link to The Sun UK post about the story. 
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/13163853/jehovahs-witness-15-not-allowed-die-judge/

They want you to die but the judge wants you to live...
Exodus says don't eat blood but they don't give...
you're lying in the hospital bed..
God got you heaven forbid..
My God wants me to live..
In this century we don't blood sacrifice give...
They say the blood's dirty..
Still telling you this paradise you still may not be worthy..
So you're being judged twice...
There's no if you do right now you'll get everlasting life..
Nothing you ever do is enough..
Saying good Job it's just a bluff...
Put in some more hours if you're bed ridden...
There better be a letter written..
A phone call or visit...
Every minute counts there's no limit, don't miss it..
COVID hit and Zoom is their savior..
Still dress up and sit in your living room stay on your best behavior..
They're still in control..
In your house or at the Kingdom Hall, they still run the show...
Does she really have the right info..
Does she have a sound mind at 15 years old?
It doesn't matter...
The Elders come with any info they can gather..
For you I hope you choose life and realize that yours matters.

By Mitchell Wesley Nov 2020

For those who have emerged from the Jehovah’s Witnesses, many of us recover from a lot, but the last piece that can be so triggering to so many of us, are the rules regarding blood.  This has affected me as well in many ways.  My beloved former mother-in-law died a few years of a treatable blood disorder.  I was devastated.  I also know that she was informed by her doctors and her son who is a capable nurse. 
I have struggled with my own stance on blood even as an independent and educated woman.  This doctrine was driven home so effectively.  I have had many surgeries and some with greater risk then others.  At those times I have had to speak to my adult daughter and present spouse about my wishes to use all other alternatives to blood first, but that I wanted to live so would accept blood.  For so many this is a “no brainer”, but so many of us struggle. 
Will this teen despise the courts for forcing blood on her? Probably.  Will she choose not to in the future when she is an adult?  Maybe.  At least at that time she will be alive to choose. 
This is a big piece of our recovery as former Jehovah’s Witnesses.  The “defiant” act of giving blood can be the first step for some.  For others it may be those difficult discussions with loved ones before surgery.  It is a piece that needs to be addressed to fully step into ourselves.
Libby Pease

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We all have them. The rough days or weeks where you wonder why you bothered getting out of bed. It is so easy to lash out in frustration to those who cross your path. Might as well share the misery, right?! This has a negative ripple effect.
 
Anger is a reaction to someone knowingly or unknowingly violating your values. When I say values, I mean something deeper than family or community values. Trust, connection and so many more are the values I am talking about. *   When our core values are trodden on then we can go from calm to livid in 2.8 seconds.
 
So how to we fortify or heal ourselves enough to be able to manage this?
 

1. Become aware of what your core values are and how well they have been satisfied in your present life. 
   1. There are many ways to find out what your core values are.  What is your favourite animal and what is it that you admire or respect in them the most?  That question will give you quite a few values.
   2. When your core values are not being satisfied in your life, it will be easier to hit the ballistic button in challenging situations.  Conversely, if your values are mostly or entirely satisfied, then there is more of a buffer.  This buffer allows you to stop, think and choose if you want to react or not. 
2. Remember to Breathe
   1. It is so challenging to remember to breathe when something has triggered us, but if we can take 5 breaths before reacting it will also give us time. During this time, we can decide if it worth reacting to and how we want to react.  This of course is easier if we have done step one first.
3. Take time to recharge
   1. When anger and frustration come quickly in our lives it can be an indication that we need to recharge our batteries.  What do you do to bring joy or a spark into your life? Do more of that when you feel like everything is annoying you. This will help you recharge your energy and satisfy any core values you may not have fully identified yet.  

 
Although these suggestions look simple, they are not always easy.  It means really getting to know ourselves and taking personal responsibility.  This can be a huge challenge when we are used to putting the responsibility for our anger in the hands of other people.  It means taking our power back and mindfully taking the stand to no longer passively give power to others.  We may not be able to decide or change the situation we are in, but we can change how we react and interact in it. 
 
What are your thoughts?  What has helped you move past the anger?
 
 
*Here is a list of values compiled by James Clear that is quite good.
https://jamesclear.com/core-values

I have been speaking with quite a few people over the past few weeks who have mentioned that our sense of time seems really weird right now.  How often during this pandemic have you found yourself losing track of what day or month it is?  Even the time of day seems to drag or slip.  I can tell you that more than once I have put down the wrong month and been floored by the fact that it is June.  Where did April and May go? 
For some, this is because their normal routine is gone because they have lost their jobs or are working from home.  For others who have worked right through there is still a weirdness in time that can’t be explained away by the loss of routine.