So often Values and Beliefs are used interchangeably, but what is the difference between the two and why should it matter?
First, let’s tease these two apart.
Interestingly the online Oxford dictionary defines values as “… what is important in life”.
They define beliefs as “an opinion about something; something that you think is true”.
I find that a bit vague, so let's untangle it a bit more so that they are easier to identify.
I invite you to imagine a vehicle of any sort. It could be a car, truck, van, hovercraft, plane, motorcycle or anything. What makes these vehicles go? Fuel and an engine. In our own lives, motivation – our reasons why - is the fuel and intention is the engine.
Consider days that you wake up with an intention or purpose for your day. You have a clear idea of what needs to be done and you set out to do it. Now consider days that have no intention or set purpose. What is the difference between those two days in your experience?
Many, if not all of us, have been wronged in some way in our lives. It could have been for a betrayal of trust, physical, mental or emotional harm or a myriad number or combination of things. The pain that these events have on us leave a mark. The anger, pain and resentment are carried with us in our lives. We may even keep the emotions fresh by recalling the wrongs to us on their anniversary each year or by keeping it fresh in our minds on a more regular basis. In Frank Herbert's book Dune, the Fremen would morn the loss of people who had died several generations back to keep the pain fresh for those individuals who never experienced the loss using the phrase, “Never to forgive, never to forget!” What benefit does this do to hold onto pain and resentment, and even purposefully or inadvertently passing it on to the next generation?